Be happy in your season

My Christian journey has not been smooth sailing. Not at all. There was a time that i was truly and utterly reliant on God. And He gave me a miracle. I completely and totally relied on Him for a job. I even stopped doing applications. Such was my faith. I got a random phone call at midday and voila, I was offered a job. I have never been so amazed in my life. I was awed and truly I serve a God who answers prayers.

But guess what my brethren, the enemy doesn’t sleep. The enemy doesn’t sleep when God calls back His own. He schemes on how he can get you back. It bothers him to know you will know eternal life and joy. So, slowly by slowly my faith went down. Going to church slowly became an option then a chore. I stopped going to church. And my downward spiral began. Looking back, I can’t believe it was me doing all that. All those things that I once thought I would never do,…I did. The more I did, the more ashamed and guilty I felt, the more rebellious I became.I thought i was acting wise but i have never been so wrong in my life. Let me tell you my friends, their is nothing as unattractive as a woman who doesn’t know who she is in the Lord. When you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. That was a true picture of my life. Anything went. The worst is, when you just consider your selfish needs, you hurt so many people. Even those you don’t see. You disrupt so may lives because of your selfish desires.

I thank the Lord everyday because He changed me. He reached down into the pit I had dug myself into and brought me out into the light. He saved me. Surely He is my redeemer. We serve a good good God. He is the only one capable of changing lives. I am amazed when i see women choosing their partners and thinking you can change him. Let me tell you my sisters. Changing a man is an uphill task you are not equipped to do. Your shoulders are not big enough or strong enough to handle it. Only God has the power and strength to change a man. Secondly, I think its very unfair to the man if all you see is how he needs to change. God created him as he is. That man is for the pleasure of God and He wants and completely loves him as he is. If you look at that man and all you want to do is change him, then he is not for you. Let him be. Someone else will look at him and appreciate him just as he is. Don’t make both you and him miserable by trying to change him. To, make matters worse, some women think that if they get pregnant for him, then he will have an incentive to change. You could never be more wrong. Don’t destroy your life, his life and that of the baby by trying to manipulate him into being what you want. Trust me, when he finds the one he’s been waiting/looking for, he will change for her if he needs to.

I admit. Loneliness is not an easy thing. Social media has made it even worse. You see how happy other couples are. And for some reason, it always seems as if ,what you want keeps happening to everyone around you but you. For instance, when you want a boyfriend, every single person around you seems to be in a relationship. When you want to be married, the wedding invites can’t seem to stop flowing and you are always giving out your measurements to different tailors for your bridesmaid dress. When you want a baby, the cutesy pics of your friend’s babies are the 1st thing you see when face book is sending you notifications. Believe me, the pressure is real. It gets to you. And when you are not careful, when you are not looking, that is when the enemy strikes. And he goes for the kill. Suddenly this man who is totally wrong for you, maybe married, or violent or is from jail… (okay, I am not being prejudiced but if you find your self dating an ex-con….i advise you to tread carefully)… is giving you all the attention that you have been craving. Then the compromise starts. It starts with the small things…then transition to bigger and bigger things. And finally when you look at yourself, you can’t recognize the person looking back at you.

So, what should you be doing in the mean time? I will answer you as honestly as i possible can. Immerse yourself in all things Christ. Let the love of God fill you up. Seek Him who created you. Involve yourself in selfless acts. Visit the children’s home, Visit the sick in hospital, Go hiking for a charity cause. Take that study course you have been wanting to do, Climb that proverbial corporate ladder, be the best in your team. Role up your sleeves and work as you wait confidently in God. I will not deny, your bed will still be cold when you get back but you will be content you have touched a life, that you have progressed. Do this consistently and finally, finally the loneliness starts to ease up. Listen to the word of God, go to church, volunteer for a service. And last but not least pray. I am still praying. God knows all the desires of your heart. He put them there. There’s nothing absolutely wrong with wanting a life partner. God loves us in relationships. He wants us happy. He will not dangle relationship on your face like a carrot and not give it to you. That is not His style. He will give you this and so much more but only if you put Him first. We serve a jealous God. He will not tolerate you putting someone else before Him. And I am afraid that is what we do. You want a relationship so bad you go to extremities just to get him/her. Remember Kind David my friends. He committed murder just to get his selfish desires met. God denied him his heart’s true desire-to build God His temple. Instead, that privilege was given to his son King Solomon. So ask yourself this, is that man/woman you are clinging on worth it? Because I tell you my friends, relationships are never meant to be that hard. You don’t need to be conniving and manipulative and shower money and play games just to get that man/ woman.

Immerse yourself in God. In Him comes true love and peace. When you know who you are in Christ, then you look at everything with a different perspective. Suddenly instead of feeling envious of friends, you are genuinely happy for them. Because you understand and know that the God you serve has blessed them. And you can confidently say…This is not my portion…YET. Because you have the faith that your Father in heaven is already moving things. He is already setting you up for success. He is already moving pieces so that you can meet that your soulmate. Not because you deserve it but because of who He is. He says ask and it shall be given to you. He will give you all that and more. But you have to stand strong in His promises. Remember my friends, God is never late neither is He too early. He is always on time. Be patient and wait. Your turn is coming. Stand strong and watch Him do what no one else under the universe can do.

Don’t put your limitations on Him. He is the creator. Everything under the universe bows before Him. Nothing escapes His notice. But the best thing of all, He deeply cares for you. He utterly loves you such that He does not want to be separated from you. He wants you to enjoy all that He can give you. So, stand with me my brothers and sisters. Stand firm with me. Let us all know that He is God and He is the God of impossibilities. So what if all your mates are married, so what if all your friends are having children, so what if you feel that all your friends are progressing in their careers. Remember He is the one who gave them all that they have and He has not forgotten you. The Bible says your name is engraved in His palm. He chose you. Just as you are. Take that step and start knowing Him. And He will bless you with your heart’s true desires. He waiting for you. He wants to bless you beyond your imagination.

And as we wait for Him, let us enjoy the season we are in. Because something is about to happen. I can feel it.

May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us now and forever Amen.